Photo by Alyce Holzberger
Today, I was a queen, with a joyful, courageous, master fisherman, dragon-meat-eating, Knight by my side – Sir Brigham (my 4 year old “returning” burst of sunshine). Together, we ate dragon meat for breakfast (millet-flax waffles) & built a rose covered castle (kitchen table with his sisters bedspread). Our “castle” was complete with a front door, back door & a beautiful, majestic lake & a “flat, wooden boat”, so we can catch fish of course! Blue fish – with sparkly stripes, & green fish that tasted like apples – of which my heroic Knight caught with the wooden fishing pole, he made himself. Fully equipped with a well working reel (Sir Brigham was sure to point this important detail out!).
And, when I would forget & return to my “alternate mommy self”, doing regular mommy stuff, or when he’d forget for a moment & get side tracked from this game, playing something not-so-Knightly, he would come right up to me, get my focused attention & draw both of us back into this game, his world of majesty, with his words:
“Remember, we are playing & you’re a Queen?”.
Thank you, Sir Brigham, for the reminder. 😉 
How easy it is to forget who we are, why we are here & what we are given to do in this truly short sojourn. Thank goodness we have each other!
Hold on… did I just say, “Thank goodness we have each other!“?
Yep.
I sure did.
And I meant it.
Although….sometimes, we may initially be anything but grateful for the role our loved one (or whomever that person may be before us currently triggering our “buttons”), is currently playing for us. Consider for a moment, that even in such a situation, that individual before you is simply giving, is simply offering, you a gift – a gift to see. They are calling you to remember.
Your opportunity, if you so choose to accept it, is to receive this gift.
Relationships are the perfect vehicle for imperfect people to learn & live the truth of who we are.
As we each are constantly (consciously & unconsciously) reflecting back to one another the the truth of who we each are – whether that “truth” is a falsity we have taken on & are believing as “truth”, or a real truth that we are given to perceive, maybe even when another is currently caught up in or distracted by whatever falsity it may be – consider for a moment our true role in each others lives here. And, let us choose, let us remember, in that moment when it may seems hardest, to shine.
Shine so that they can see – so that you both can see.
“How did the rose ever open its heart & give to this world all its beauty? It felt the encouragement of light against its being.” Hafiz
Rather than the destructive cycle of continually bringing out & reacting to the falsities in ourselves & others, let us look for & give life to the truth in each other. Herein lies the gift. Let us learn to live, let us receive & give, this gift.
Until next time…
D.D.
The Gift of You Consulting 